They say it is rare to find a woman who has not been hurt deeply by a man. Personally I do not buy that because I exist and I am sure there are many more like me. When I say I have never had my heart broken people always look at me like I’m speaking french. Well, its the truth, maybe I was built tough, or maybe I have never really given my heart away to the point where it is vulnerable. Or maybe I just never put myself in compromising situations or maybe I am just lucky not to run into terrible men. Actually, so far I have been lucky to run into good guys ( I confess to usually being the runner), oh with the exception of just one, but he did not make boyfriend status anyhow because I saw through him before it went anywhere. He was actually a nice guy but he had a major problem. lol. He was a pathological liar, you know the kind that if he says good morning, you do not have to check to see if it is morning because you know for sure it is night. Yeah! that kind. lol. other than that he was pretty cool, plus I have a feeling he really couldn’t help himself. I always used to say I feel sorry for the woman that ends up with him because she just bought herself a lifetime of lies and lord knows what else. Now, imagine me trying to settle down with that guy, of course I am asking for trouble and a very unhappy future.
Anyhow why am I talking about relationships you ask? well I was reading Veras blog and Stella’s Blog and I just couldn’t stop asking myself why these women are putting themselves through this mess. I am not one to judge but I think they have set themselves up for a lifetime of drama and heartache because no matter how much we try to pretend we do not care, our hearts were not cut out for sharing out partners. Like if you know he is married and he has told you he is not leaving his wife why even go as far as having his child, and what would possess any woman to settle for second best aka second wife. Sighs! In my opinion, polygamy is a terrible thing, and the rate of infidelity in NIG is appalling. I don’t see anything good coming out of it except confusion, confusion and more confusion. I feel sooo bad for the kids that will be forced into these types of situations. God forbid, if my husband comes home with another “wife” hahhahaha, gosh I can just picture my reaction. He will know better sha!
Not that I am nosey or anything, I am actually curious to see how these stories will round up. Err and OJB, is he OK? I mean 4real is he trying to break some sort of record? and those girls? Maybe there is a shortage of men. Well sha yoruba people will say “eni to kan lo mo” meaning you can only understand when its your turn. So maybe there are different factors that play a role into their decisions to be the other woman.. HA! the other woman!, kai! just saying it gives me the hibee–gibees.lol
A quote from Vera’s blog: “Then Amah and Korede: These two pretty girls in their early 20’s had promising careers in Music and Dancing respectively until Amah got pregnant and had a child for singer, OJB Jezreel, AKA Jigger. OJB is still married to his wife of several years and is in his early 40’s, but didn’t see nothing wrong in having extra marital affairs. Amah, who was happy to be wife N0.2 has received a shocker as Korede(professional dancer) who is in her 20’s and a bit younger than Amah is currently carrying Jigger’s child.What goes around, comes around. lol.”
A quote from Stellas blog: (this is in refrence to Caroline Ekanem)”after all her elongated mouth interviews where she openly professedto be dating a nigerian based abroad,this actress has just given birth toa son for a man old enough to be her fathers younger brother.well my problem is not even the mans age,my probelm is that how can someone as young(wetin be her age sef)and as pretty as caro let herself be sweet talked into becoming semi-second wife cum semi concubine?how will her co-wife treat her?what if there is more thanone co-wife?what amount of money could have lured this silly girl into this lifetime of mistake”
Another quote from Stella’s Blog “according to the well informed olofofos the brouhaha of nike throwing out tunde from her victoria island apartment was because”Dr Soleye has since been in secret communication with Omoua who has sent messages to him through his friends to stay away from her life. the dr told friends he wants to send his people to Benin to ask for forgiveness and a comeback with Omoua and to marry her asap, that Nike will always be a friend to him and not a wife.The news got to Nike , who threw tantrums with Dr Soleye and locked him out of her flat in VI when he showed up in the earlyhours of the morning.Nike has also sworn to her close friend Nkiru aumudu(nkiru introduced nike and soleye) that she might call off the june wedding.”also olofofos swear that while Nike was away in India some weeks back,Dr Soleye went back to another of his ex named Hadiza muazu in Abjua and spent 3 nights at Hadiza’s flat ..nike is pissed that she cannot continue to follow tunde around guarding him like a policewoman.Nike’s dilemna is that after the wedding in June, she cannot continue to watch his every move.”well what a couple.nIke loves men with money and Dr Soleye loves women with glamour !!”
Good luck to them!