I am sure you are wondering what the heck is she on about. How can drama be good for you? Well except the for the type of drama you watch on stage or on television, going through a dramatic situation only brings unnecessary stress and headache. Yes it is advisable to avoid drama at all cost but if you find yourself entangled in it, depending on how you look at it, you can flip it to serve a greater purpose.
What is Drama
Drama is pretty much when unexpected things happen to distract your day and inevitably cause you to be in, most times, an undesired emotional state. According to the dictionary, drama is “an exciting, emotional, or unexpected series of events or set of circumstances.” The type of drama I am talking about in this article is the one attached to negativity.
Some people live for drama because to them it is fun. While some people detest it. If you are one of those who dislikes being caught up in a situation where your emotions are stirred the wrong way, you may try to avoid it but it does not mean you will be able to at all times. If you relate with others, there will come a time where you disagree and drama might ensue.
How can Drama help you?
If you are anything like me and everyone else in the world, then you often times get caught up drama sometimes. As much as I dislike getting my emotions stirred in the wrong direction, I am strong-willed and opinionated. Being this way will often times have you running into people who do not agree with you. It may also help find you in situations that may cause you major stress.
I have learned over time that as much as I hate drama, every time I find myself entangled in it, I have been able to use it for a greater purpose of evaluating self. When people have opinions about you, although most times their opinions do not matter, sometimes it’s fair to take the constructive ones and use them to analyze how you handle certain situations.
As much as you may hate drama, it may actually be good for you if you learn from it. Whenever I get entwined in drama it gives me time to reflect and really think about what matters to me and what doesn’t. It gives me time to analyze myself, my actions and reactions. It gives me a new-found opportunity to grow. It also gives me time to decide what things and or people I should avoid as much as I can. The goal here is to try as much as possible to put your peace of mind first while staying true to who you are.
3 Important Steps
Usually the first thing I do is ask myself how I got there in the first place. I play the scenario over in my head to see what role I played and how it could have been different. I ask myself if associating with said people is worth it, and even if your views are salvageable, are theirs? Remember it takes two to tango so while analyzing your self, think about the other party’s role too.
The next thing I do is write down steps I can take not to find myself in that position or situation anymore. As humans we can be fueled by emotions but we also have the power of free will. It is a good idea to write down how you would have used your free will differently. Most times it is wise to ignore, but if your emotions got the best of you and you did not, take steps to fix that part of you so it doesn’t happen again.
The third thing I do is apply it. I apply everything I have reflected on by making a conscious effort not to repeat the same. Don’t forget you are human and we are prone to backtracking so if you find your emotions made you backtrack, simply start over again. Practice makes perfect and after a while you will get used to it.
Remember drama usually starts when you decide something is important enough to fight about. Choose wisely. You may not be able to avoid drama at all cost but do not entangle yourself in a lost cause. If you are fighting for something, make sure it is a fight you can win. If it is a losing battle, then it defeats the purpose of putting yourself through all that in the first place. Always remember, the most important thing should be your peace of mind and anything that threatens that should be avoided.
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