Allow me start this post with the infamous Quote from Dr. Martin Luther King Jnr. He said “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” No truer words have ever been spoken. When you continue to and effortlessly love others irrespective of how they treat you, eventually they will have no choice but to return that love. You will then in turn, get the results you want. If you fight hate with hate, you will simply engage yourself in a long battle that will still end with love or never end at all. Unfortunately, this is one of the hardest things to do.
As humans our actions are controlled mainly by emotions. There is a reason we feel anger, pain, joy, sadness, happiness, frustration, and the list goes on. These emotions are probably put in place to help us avoid certain things but as humans we do not always use these emotions in the best possible way. In an ideal world, it would be awesome to always reciprocate hate with love. We do not live in an ideal world. I know for a fact if we did, the world would be a better place.
The world is forever evolving and nothing in this life is permanent, most especially situations. I always say, do not let your emotions write a check your future cannot cash. I have noticed when you act out of anger, 9 times out of 10, you end up regretting it. I was on twitter sometime before the new year. I had recently changed my trends map to Los Angeles to follow what was going on in my city and also to somewhat avoid the consistent negative trends that came from my previous trends map, Lagos. One thing we are not is perfect but we have the power to choose what affects us and what we wish to be exposed to. Anyways, while catching up with what was going on, I saw the hashtag #NewYearsResolutionIn5Words trending.
I felt it was an interesting hashtag and decided to chime in. My new years resolutions were quite simple; Peaceful, Happy, Successful, Healthy, Loving. We are still in the first month of the new year and I feel like I have achieved most if not all of these in just 23 days of the new year. I feel I achieved it with love.
Granted, the objective is to stay this way during the year and beyond but I think I am off to a great start. This year and most especially this week has been one big ol bag of mixed emotions. It almost feels like Iv packed one years worth of emotions in 23 days ranging from peace, to joy, to anger and frustration, to indifference and even amusement but one thing that stayed consistent while feeling all these is love. The need to keep that love and happiness going in my soul. This I believe has set the pace for a lot of good things that have taken place this year so far.
Someone approached me about writing a book about my life and experiences. I am seriously considering it because even when I look back at things, I’m like, wow, is this my life? Jesus!. Dramaaaaaa! Rolls Eyes – lol Maybe I’ll call the book “The MsAppropriation of Toni Payne” hahaha –
I look back at a lot of my reaction to certain things, how I have handled some things and realize, the things that truly worked is patience and love. Always stand your ground and do what makes you happy but in the process, remain internally calm and never stop spreading the message of love. I feel humans respond better to that, and even if they do not want it, eventually they will conform to it. I wish I had it in me to always use this logic and apply it to everything and everyone, but alas, I am human, I am imperfect and my other emotions will more than likely never lay dormant. If I can however apply it most times, I think this is an achievement on its own. We all know change is the constant thing in life, but lets hope that never changes.